Skip to main content


My Own Valentine: Why We Should Practice Self-Care (and Celebrate Self-Love) in February

Image by Jess Watters from Pixabay
I don’t know how it happens for other people, but I remember the specific moment I realized I loved myself.
A couple of years ago, I had the worst year of my life. I won’t go into details as that could fill a book of its own. Let’s just say my self-esteem was the lowest it has ever been.
As I drove to group therapy, Demi Lovato’s song “Sober” started playing on my radio. I parked just as I heard the last line of the song about apologizing to herself. I immediately started bawling.
The line triggered an image in my mind’s eye, which you might find odd. Just bear with me.
I pictured myself standing tall, looking my best all dressed up and well-groomed. Walking towards me was another version of myself. I’ll refer to that second me as “she” to avoid confusion.
She was dressed in days old clothing and her head was down in shame. She also had her arms crossed over her torso, as if she was hugging herself. Concerned, I met her halfway. She looked up slightly and…